We exchange love in all sorts of ways.
Have you read the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman?
NOTE: it’s not just for couples.
The premise of the book sheds light on how we give and receive love (insert kindness if you wish) and how it influences the quality of our relationships. If our languages are different, we could feel a deep sense of disconnect (our fifth Foundation of Health). When we learn each other’s love language and practice supporting each other, it enriches our relationships. An example: If you aren’t a gift giver and your partner is constantly buying you things but never doing the dishes, you might be stewing about it and not sure why. The feeling of being disconnected can be a real challenge.
Here is a snapshot of the 5 Love Languages.
Words of Affirmation
Do you love being showered with praise? It can be verbally or written but give without with manipulation.
Quality Time
Do you love spending quality time together no matter what is on the agenda? This means no cell phones and undivided attention.
Receiving Gifts
Do you love the presents no matter what it is? It’s the intention that is important.
Acts of Service
Do you love a helping hand – especially when someone does something without being asked? This one can feel mundane to some as it’s the everyday things like making the bed and taking out the garbage.
Physical Touch
Do you love holding hands, hugs and being close? Note this is not sexual behavior.
It’s worth digging into this a little and getting to know your love language and those you connect with the most. Gary has a set of quizzes that help you learn more about yourself – link here.
One more note: If there is trauma around any of these being carried into new relationships, we encourage you to find a practitioner who can support you. Feel free to connect and we can make recommendations. You might want to listen to our Nourish Noshes podcast interview with Susan Marco.
